"Deadbeat Dads"

While I don't agree with "deadbeat dads", I do understand sometimes why they become that way. Our justice system does not make it easy for them to do the right thing. They bleed the man dry and empty his bank account, not caring that, after they take 65% of his paycheck, there's nothing left for him to survive on. I agree that a dad should help out with the child/children he helped create but what about the woman? Does she not have to take a part in this child's care? And why not? If the couple was married, both mom and dad would be contributing to the child's care. Why is it that, after a divorce, the father is the only one responsible for paying for everything dealing with that child? And at such unreasonable amounts? And in the case of the mother working full-time, maybe being married again with a husband who also works full-time, why does she still insist on making the father/ex-husband pay for a child that they created out of love TOGETHER until he's forced to become a "deadbeat dad" in order to survive? I sincerely believe that the father needs to be partly responsible for the child but the key word here is "partly". The mother is also responsible for that child but the courts don't see it that way. And why is that? When they were married and in love, it was most likely a mutual decision to have that child, the man certainly didn't create a baby on his own. Now, after a divorce, it's the man's "fault" that the child exists. I think it's totally unreasonable and extremely unfair to the man that he's the one totally responsible for a child created by the two of them. They created together, they loved together, they should raise together. And these days, some women make more money than the man does. The courts are forcing men to become "deadbeat dads". And while I do agree
that there are definitely some men out there who deserve that title, in my experience, there are too many who don't and who, as I see it, sometimes don't have a choice because it's the only way they can survive.
It always amazes me that a couple who was in love enough to get married and have a child together can suddenly hate each other so much and go straight for the juggler. Is there no compassion anymore?
I can even see that sometimes circumstances will cause the woman to become bitter like an affair, abuse, etc., but these instances aside, how can one hate someone SO much that they once shared everything with?

It boggles the mind.